Tuesday, February 9, 2021

A True Democracy

One of the plus sides to living in These Unprecedented Times is many of my friends realized all at once that they could actually just go ahead and get really cute puppies. Key among these was Emily, who lives down the street from me and who decided to get a cavoodle (same as Duncan) named Jude.

Since we're all working from home, apparently in perpetuity, it made sense to us to start our very own little doggy daycare, which means every other day we each send our own dog to the other's house so Duncan and Jude can wrestle and nap for 9 straight hours. 

We truly don't deserve our animals. Skylar and I have wondered for the past year whether Duncan is grateful to have us home all the time now. He seemed elated for the first week, but after that we noticed he started stomping out of rooms and hiding so he could nap in peace. If you've ever had a roommate who is home too much and you wish they would leave every once in a while so you could have some alone time, it honestly feels like that. 

Duncan used to come cuddle on top of my feet while I worked during the day. Now he sleeps on the couch in the other room, occasionally walking into the office to stare at me in frustration if I'm taking a call. 

One thing they don't really tell you about marriage is how quickly you're going to get into the habit of using the dog to argue.

"Duncan doesn't really like how messy you left the kitchen this morning. Don't shoot the messenger!"

That was already happening pre-Covid, but then it became so much worse once we were all stuck at home together and Duncan started acting like he was on neither of our sides.

Because our humble abode is a true democracy, all three of us have an equal vote in family decisions, which basically means that when Skylar and I disagree we have to make the best case for what we think Duncan's vote probably is. This usually involves manipulating him to coming over to a certain side of the room to sit next to one of us. 

Last night there was a battle over the thermostat. This is a common occurrence in our house. I prefer a balmy 65. Skylar, if he had his wish, would set the temperature in our house at 85 degrees. He'd still complain that it was cold and he'd still drape himself in his collection of international sweaters, but he'd accuse me of murder less if I allowed this.

"It's freezing," he informed me of our 71 degree house yesterday. "I can barely feel my fingers." Skylar sat huddled on top of one heating blanket and with another covering him. "Can we please just turn on the fire before I die of hypothermia?"

"Sky. It's SO hot in here," I gasped, a bead of sweat dripping down my half naked body. 

"Fine. Let's let Duncan decide."

Our dog sat, huddled with Skylar on top of the two heating blankets, staring at me with the same quiet desperation that was pouring out of my husband. We turned on the damn fire.

~It Just Gets Stranger 


  1. My mom and dad used to have this argument. Dad was always hot. It usually ended with him telling her in his thick Texas drawl, “You can always put on more clothes, but I can only get so neked.”

    1. Bahaha, priceless! Going to remember this one myself, lol

  2. My husband will reference our dog’s cold nose in this debate. He will say I’m “freezing them out” and I’m “so mean to the poor boy”, and will make me touch the dog’s nose to prove he’s cold. Our house is set to 72 when all this happens.

  3. My husband got me a heated vest because I am always cold too. I wear that thing constantly. It's like 66 degrees here in Atlanta today and I'm wearing my heated vest on high heat. (And I'm inside with the heat on, much to my husband's disdain.)

  4. My husband will tell me he has to go outside to warm up because I keep it so cold in our home 🙄

  5. I really wish Skylar had a blog so we could get his side of the story. Not to say I don't believe Eli, but I would love to know why he felt he had to wear earmuffs, two heating blankets and layers of clothing.

  6. I swear, a new cavoodle enters your life every year.

  7. I would love to keep my house warmer but I'm also reallllly cheap so in the winter we keep it at 61 at night and 65 in the day. I occasionally turn on the fireplace but usually I just dress in really warm clothes and sit on my hands to keep them warm.